Just when you thought this crazy series was dead, I go and bring out PART 5!
We cannot have a full discussion about the single experience without discussing Blind Dates and the crazy friends and relatives who inflict them on us.
I’ve never been much of an aggressive dater. I have always enjoyed a fun date every now and again, but never been like ‘gotta have it’ like was some lifeblood or vitamin water or whatever. Because I have been judged (at one time or another in my life) as not dating “enough” or “the right people”, I have often been set up on blind dates with people I didn’t even know from Eve.
For those who haven’t been in the dating scene for a while, a blind date is defined as a date where one or both of you were asked out by an intermediary because you didn’t know each other well enough to ask directly.
Blind dates typically go very well (ring coming soon) or very badly (the majority). Only a wee small percentage of them are just ‘all right’ and lead to second dates or future interest.
Let me explain why blind dates almost always go badly:
- The person/people who set you up have absolutely no concept of your personality or what you might be looking for in a girl. Many of them just see a single guy and a single girl and automatically think – “Hey, they’d be great for each other” without even considering the fact that they share no common interests, aptitudes, talents, and/or attitudes.
- The date activity you choose (for example, bowling) will most likely be something that one of you is really bad at, and which will rapidly get super-uncomfortable.
- The offending ‘setter-uppers’ will often want to double date with you, which always makes the pressure even greater for the date to succeed, which sometimes leads to the actual failure of the date because the comfortable parties will naturally gravitate toward each other. (People have gotten married this way, yo.)
I decided to post about this today because while I was kickin’ it on the elliptical this morning, my friends from the Today show were doing this interview about how mothers try to set up their daughters with anyone who appears at all successful or artistic – without the slightest regard for small details like… their marital status.
The problem is, non-single people don’t understand the importance of asking basic questions like, “Are you married?” They just see two people of the opposite gender, both with a pulse, and decide in their minds that they would make a fantastic couple based on those assumptions. This is why any random idea from friends and family members for we single people is met with a hearty dose of skepticism.
So what is to be done about this absurd practice? Absolutely nothing. I have been on a lot of blind dates in my life, and while most weren’t that great at all, they are cherished, horrendous moments which I now reflect on and laugh about.